Bob and I want to thank all of our friends that came to Helen’s Celebration of Life and sent us cards. You can’t possibly know how much your love helped us.We are so fortunate to have each and every one of you in our life. Many of you knew Helen. I thought I would share with you what Bob had to say about his mom at her Celebration of Life. She will be missed.
Thank you for coming to what we are calling Helen’s celebration of life. For those of you who don’t know me I’m Bob Choban, Helen’s youngest son, My 2 sisters Barb and Betty are also here,(raise your hand) and our extended family (would all of moms extended family please raise your hands) My older brother passed away a number of years ago.
My Mom was the best, she was always their for me, no matter how much trouble I got into, and I did get into some trouble, it was never my fault, usually, I think it was just bad company, she was good wife to my dad and to Ed bowers who she was with until he died, and I’m sure she was good friend to many of you.
Mother love to talk and tell stories about her life, to anyone who would listen, and she did have an interesting life, she was just finishing up her 3rd book about her life, at 94 she still had a lot to say.
Mother was a person who believe her glass was half full and not half empty. She looked for the best in people. She could get you to laugh with her stories, and she could comfort you if when you were sad. She was always their to support you if you needed it.
The last years of my mothers life were spent at Walker Methodist (Hazel ridge and West Wood ridge)
She truly love the people that worked and lived at these two locations.
Moving from Hazel Ridge(independent living) to West Wood Ridge(assisted living) where she need more help was hard for my mom.
She was on her own, Ed was gone, she was becoming more dependent on the staff and she didn’t want to become a burden to anyone. She was scared about making this last move.
She called me about a week after the move and told me that she was going to be OK, she felt safe again and that was important to mom. She didn’t have to ask for help because people were always asking if she needed help. Staff were also respectful of what my mother’s needs were and never made her feel like she was asking too much of them. I will always appreciate how the staff at these two locations took care of my mother.
I would like to leave you with two things we talked alot about and that were very important mom (Family and helping others).
Mother was very proud of her family, she was proud of what her son’s and daughter’s had accomplished, she was proud of her son and daughters children, and their children, after all she was a great, great great grandmother. That’s five generations of Family.
She was always trying to help people become a better. She once told me She may not be able to change the world, but it she could just help one person change to become a better person, she would be OK with that. And I’m sure there are a few people here who’s live she changed for the better.
So when you go home tonight take a moment to remember the last time you talk to Helen, did she make you laugh, did she console you when you were feeling bad, did she tell you a story about her life, or was she there to listen.
I will miss talking to mom, a lot, but I don’t morn her death, she lived a good long life, and our family appreciate all of you attending this celebrate of my mothers life.